All of us use our reasoning abilities to justify what we think and what we do. We use our reasoning to solve problems and to embrace opportunities. We use our reasoning in hundreds of areas.
Yet, when we are in relationships and we give our reasons for doing something and the other party questions or disagrees with our reasoning, things can become very heated.
In my personal business coaching practice in The Woodlands and Houston, I have clients who have the best systems, the best IT, the marketing, and they are profitable. Yet, and it will never be perfect, there are a number of hierarchical and peer relationships that are disjointed. Disjointed relationships are a drain on productivity. But since things are good for the bottom line, they are glossed over. Then one day the tipping point is reached and there is an explosion. An explosion that could have been prevented. And the explosion can be bad enough to halt productivity.
What can you do about it? Once again, in the area of relationships, there are many answers. But these answers are not necessarily solutions. I am going to share with you something that I have seen work for my clients in my personal business coaching practice. Does it always work? Absolutely it does not. But at the very least it does shine some light on a pathway to a solution.
When things get heated and boil over between people our first response when confronted is the following. Very often, in defense of our reasoning, we give the other person even more logical, reasons, as to why we are right. This does only one thing. It heightens the tension and anger.